《How To Win Friends And Influence People》 英 | 《如何赢取友谊与影响他人》 中 -- 个人看法以及读书笔记
by Dale Carnegie
推荐指数:★★★★☆
你想变成一个能言善道的人吗?
你想知道怎么才能让人毫无怨恨的服从与你吗?
这本由戴尔·卡耐基,一位著名的人际关系学大师在1936年所出版的《How To Win Friends And Influence People》记载了关于如何以说话方式有效的处理人与人之间的关系。
此书不长,仅有四个部分。分别是:
- Part One ( Fundamental Techniques in Handling People )
- Part Two ( Ways to Make People Like You )
- Part Three ( How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking )
- Part Four ( Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment )
其中最长的部分是第三部分(Part Three),最短是第一部分(Part One)。
Summary
小小的重点摘要(摘录书中的句子):
PART ONE
- Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
PART TWO
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Smile.
- Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
- Make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely.
PART THREE
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're wrong."
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Thrown down a challenge.
PART FOUR
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about the thing you suggest.
在带出每一个卡耐基想要表达的想法之前,卡耐基都会引用各个人士的经验之谈来作为该想法的证明。
我个人是觉得,这些方法是很实用的,但也不容易用在生活中。如果你的脾气一向很急,或者你一向不屑于附和别人,这些方法是真的很难引用在生活中。可是,透过卡耐基书中所写的一些人士的经验,我觉得这些方法一旦成功被引用在生活中,你的人际关系将会大大提高。
不过呢,我是没有试验过,我只能说,这本书所给予的想法是很吸引人的。如果能让自己改善人际关系,那何不试一试呢?
此外,在陈述各方人士的经验时,有一些当时他们所讲的话以及说话方式,也是值得参考的。万一,有一天我们会有需要呢?
这是一本我觉得值得一看的书,推荐!
*彦籽看的是原文书,所以就没有中文版的重点摘要了,对于想要看中文版的朋友们建议你们去看中文版的《如何赢取友谊与影响他人》或者在网上再找找看有没有中文版的重点摘要吧,抱歉 ((鞠躬
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